Our Standards

Consent is the foundation of every interaction on this platform and at every event we host. It is not a checkbox at the door — it is an ongoing, enthusiastic, and revocable agreement between adults.

• Enthusiastic. Anything less than a clear "yes" is a "no". Silence, hesitation, or ambiguity means stop and ask.
• Ongoing. Consent to one thing, at one moment, with one person, is not consent to anything else. It can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason, without explanation.
• Informed. Everyone involved should understand what is being agreed to. Impairment, coercion, or power imbalance invalidates consent.
• Respected. "No", "stop", "not tonight", or a safeword ends the interaction immediately — no negotiation, no guilt-tripping, no follow-up pressure.

Harassment of any member — attendee, host, cohost, performer, or staff — is grounds for immediate removal from the platform and any associated event, without refund and without appeal for serious incidents.

We treat the following as harassment, whether it happens on-platform, in DMs, at an event, or in any related space:

• Unwanted physical contact, following someone, or ignoring a "no".
• Sexual, racist, transphobic, homophobic, ableist, or otherwise discriminatory language or behaviour.
• Recording, photographing, or sharing images of any member without their explicit, in-the-moment consent.
• Threats, intimidation, doxxing, or attempts to out someone's identity, orientation, or attendance.
• Retaliation against anyone who raises a safety concern or reports an incident.

Reports go to our safety team and are investigated confidentially. Bans are recorded and enforced across every future event.

Access to events is not open by default. Every member goes through the same layered vetting process before they can RSVP or attend, and hosts have the same obligations as guests.

• Age verification. Every account must provide proof of age (18+) reviewed by a human before any event access is granted.
• Identity checks. Members confirm they are who they say they are. Duplicate, fake, or recycled accounts are removed.
• Health screening, where required. For events that require it, recent STI/STD screening documents are reviewed by an admin and stored under strict privacy controls. See our Privacy Policy for how sensitive information is handled.
• Waivers & house rules. Attendees agree to event-specific conduct rules and sign a waiver before they receive access details. No signed waiver means no access.
• Host & venue compliance. Hosts submit venue documentation, public liability insurance, and permits which are reviewed before an event is published.
• Ongoing conduct history. A single credible safety report is enough to pause an account while we investigate. Confirmed violations follow the member permanently.

If you experience or witness a breach of these standards — before, during, or after an event — tell us. You can flag any RSVP, message the host, or contact the safety team directly. Reports are confidential, and you will never be penalised for raising a concern in good faith.

These standards apply to everyone equally. There are no VIPs, and there are no exceptions.